Confession: I have a control problem
Hello! We are back from our 10-day expedition to Europe and survived traveling to three countries with a 10-month old!! I've had a lot of time to really think about what I want to share with you and something very powerful came up for me - I have a control problem.
I've always been the type of person who wants to do it themselves. I often feel like it is easier to just take care of it by myself, because I know it will get done quickly and will be done right. Do you ever feel this way?
As a new mother, I'm realizing more and more that it is just not possible for me to take care of everything. To be honest, I thought that by becoming a full-time entrepreneur and leaving my 9 to 5 I would suddenly have a ton of time. Now, I do have more time in the day, but the ideas for my business just keep coming and coming and I'm spending my time making each one of the possible.
This all came up for me before we left for our trip to Europe. In the past I’ve really been on top of my sh*t and had our trips planned out weeks in advance. However, just three days before we were set to leave I realized I hadn't booked the train tickets, I still needed to go to the store, laundry wasn't done and I had not even started compiling a list of things we might want to see and do, oh and I didn't even notice they changed our departure time!!
In that moment I seriously felt like I had dropped the ball. Why did I let this happen?
Oh yeah because I felt like I needed to do it all myself. My husband is so supportive, but let's be honest he can't read my mind, I mean no one can that would just be scary. I have to ask for help and I definitely didn't.
My business has grown so fast and continues to grow, we were leaving on a major European adventure and oh yeah I still have to take care of the day-to-day tasks, no wonder I lost it. I needed help and after a small cry fest with my husband he reminded me that asking for help and releasing control is not a weakness.
I repeat, releasing control, reducing the pressure, asking for help, taking the time, is not a sign of weakness! It is so important to get the help and support you need. Let it go and trust that it will all work out, controlling every single situation is not beneficial to you or your life of freedom.
If you are struggling with this or feel like you have to do it all alone, you don't. Reach out and get help from someone who supports you and genuinely cares about you and your happiness!